The "Baaghbaan" post

Today, as I was sorting out another squabble between my parents, I realised – they are turning into siblings. Which makes me terribly angry at times but mostly mellow with a strange happy-sad emotion.

Maybe, because I have started to think of my parents’ marriage as how marriages should be – and how all couples should be.

I think they survived 35 years of marriage and are still going strong because:

• they TALK……………about all the things their lives touched or touches
• they argue ……but decide to make up within 24 hours without bothering who will make the first move to apologise
• they never force their religious beliefs on each other
• they respect each others intelligence by flaunting each other’s talents
• they keep the money-discussions very transparent; till the last penny!
• they show their affection without any restraint – a tight hug and kiss has been the accepted greeting
• they keep the humour going – even after a fight
• they are each other’s support at all times

(and in retrospect…)

• they changed themselves for each other
• they decided they will take off for a vacation once a year – money or no money
• they accepted each other’s parents with all their flaws – maybe not happily but never flinched either
• they accepted very early in life that in the end, it is each other who will matter to them - rest of the things/people will come and go

and of course, because:

• they belong to the ingenuous generation where phrases such as “women’s lib”, “I need my space”, or “quality time” “double income no kids” – were not yet born.